Why Birdcage Training
Stalking: “I just want it to stop” in each case where a victim is being stalked, this is what they have told me.
Scenarios what do you do?
Workplace:
Police:
Domestic Abuse case workers:
Housing:
Social workers:
Universities/Higher education:
The above is not an exhaustive list. All of the scenarios above are real and in each case the victim was failed by their workplace, police, domestic abuse worker, social services, housing and all other agencies. This is because if you aren’t trained you won’t understand the nature of fixation, how to risk assess, safety plan, the law, options for victims and how to advocate. Quite simply you will put the victim at further risk.
Every place of work needs a standalone stalking policy to protect their staff. Anyone coming into contact with a stalking victim needs expert and specialist training. Stalkers steal and take lives. They leave victims trapped inside their homes, unable to concentrate at work, it impacts their mental and physical health, their social life, it puts children and victims at risk of harm or murder and is all the victim wants is for it to STOP!
So contact me at [email protected]
To understand what stalkers do to people’s lives, it is important to listen to the many victim/survivors voices: “….
Alison has been immersed in the world of protecting stalking and domestic abuse victims / survivors and looking at risk and how to react to it.
She is passionate about justice and bringing an end to male violence.
Scenarios what do you do?
Workplace:
- Your staff member is being stalked by their ex-partner who is also a staff member
- You are a GP, clinician or someone who supports others, and your client is stalking you
- A staff member is being stalked by someone they met years ago
- Your staff member is being stalked by an ex colleague
Police:
- You have a stalking victim and have crimed it as harassment or miscommunications
- You have a stalking victim and have wrongly told them to change their number, don’t look at your social media or move – incorrectly assuming that will stop the stalking
- You haven’t risk assessed your stalking victim or followed the NPCC and CPS protocol
- You haven’t reached out to work alongside an anti-stalking case worker
Domestic Abuse case workers:
- You have a high-risk victim who has separated from their partner who is now bombarding them with messages, following them and you don’t know about stalking, correct advice, safety planning, S-DASH, advocacy and options for the client
Housing:
- You work in housing and have a stalking situation that you have wrongly classed as ASB
- A client wants a management transfer because they are being stalked
- A neighbour is stalking another tenant
- Your staff member is being stalked by an ex-partner
- Your repairs team are constantly repairing the front door
Social workers:
- A father who was a domestic abuser is stalking his ex-partner and they have children
- In a meeting with both parent’s mum seems withdrawn and uncooperative - she is being stalked by the father (her ex-patner) having suffered domestic abuse at his hands
Universities/Higher education:
- A student is stalking another student and they haven’t been in a relationship
- A student is stalking their ex-partner
The above is not an exhaustive list. All of the scenarios above are real and in each case the victim was failed by their workplace, police, domestic abuse worker, social services, housing and all other agencies. This is because if you aren’t trained you won’t understand the nature of fixation, how to risk assess, safety plan, the law, options for victims and how to advocate. Quite simply you will put the victim at further risk.
Every place of work needs a standalone stalking policy to protect their staff. Anyone coming into contact with a stalking victim needs expert and specialist training. Stalkers steal and take lives. They leave victims trapped inside their homes, unable to concentrate at work, it impacts their mental and physical health, their social life, it puts children and victims at risk of harm or murder and is all the victim wants is for it to STOP!
So contact me at [email protected]
To understand what stalkers do to people’s lives, it is important to listen to the many victim/survivors voices: “….
- "I’ve come to the conclusion that nobody’s going to help me, the authorities have washed their hands of it … I don’t want to live in fear” (after a 27-year stalking campaign).
- “I feel like the only way I can stop the stalking is to kill myself”.
- “I just want it to stop”.
- “I never feel safe. I know she won’t stop and this is never going to end. I am living in fear, always looking over my shoulder.”
- “The only time I can live my life freely is when he is behind bars. When he is free I am in prison."
- "When people make jokes about stalking someone's social media it makes me feel physically sick."
Alison has been immersed in the world of protecting stalking and domestic abuse victims / survivors and looking at risk and how to react to it.
She is passionate about justice and bringing an end to male violence.
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